I spoke with my friend the other day.
Honeymoon C has been a friend for 13 years.
As you may have guessed, we met her
(and Honeymoon B.) on our honeymoon.
We were all married on the same day (600 miles apart)
Unfortunately, C and B are no longer honeymooning.
Since their divorce, we've agreed to keep our
anniversary calls going, but have now renamed it to:
"happy friendship day".
Divorce is painful.
It is painful for both the leav-er, and the leave-ee.
Very often though, tears are shed for other reasons
'he left with my favorite pillow'
'she got all the frequent flier miles'
'i miss my dog'
'my grocery purchases, my fuel perks-damn it! '
"what possessed me to do a 'beauty and the beast' wedding?"
"why did i ever agree to wear the gauzy white shirt on our wedding?"
Tears are shed for the loss of what was once a great thing.
There is at least a thing (or kid) or two that made it beautiful.
Tears for Fears
-- fear of being alone, fear of getting back into the dating world or
fear of the potential effects of divorce on the children.
And then there is the subject of: The Settlement.
Who gets to keep whom?
What are the rules?
Should whoever have introduced the friend, keep the friend?
But what if, this friend actually likes the spouse more...and not the introducer?
What if the friend likes both?
Who gets the 50th bday?
Who gets the superbowl party?