The Perfect Set-up
There is an art to the perfect set-up.
Unfortunately, I had to learn this the hard way.
It was the eighties and I had big hair.
I was set-up on a blind date by my friend Augie.
The problem: She described me as being a Julia Roberts look-alike.
The result: the blind date was disappointed with filipino Julia
The Lesson: When setting up for a set-up, being negative is best.
Kay Uranza, my friend since grade school is a successful lawyer.
She had a good life.
But like all marrieds that annoyingly think that singles (which she was) should be saved from a life of non-stop socials, choice, and not hearing the sound of someone else's snoring--I was constantly in search of a man for her.
My father, a lawyer in Rochester,NY- had a young friend, Joe
(young compared to my dad), who is also a lawyer.
1. both lawyers.
2. both devout Catholics.
3. both looking.
So after an initial email introducing them, they wrote to each other.
Joe and Kay, liked what they read.
Back and forth they dated with words and wit.
When they asked me how the other looked, I shared my Julia Roberts Story.
I said that in the face of a blind date, it is always best to expect the worst. Perhaps it was the existing attraction they had for each other's minds that made them go with it, because for the next 12 months they wrote back and forth before ever exchanging pictures.
By the time they decided to meet a year later at St. Patrick's Cathedral in NYC, it was pretty much a done deal.
They married two years later and now live happily ever after.